Have you ever noticed that there are certain people that give up at the first sign of resistance? When on a weight loss program, they often give up the first time that they are faced with temptation, or the first week that they don’t lose weight. It doesn’t work! they say. On the other hand you probably know people that try, and try again. People that don’t quit period. Somebody who could be up against insurmountable odds and not even waiver.
Why is it? Surely those people that give up easy can have a strong desire and want something just as bad, right? What causes the difference?
According to the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming:
An extremely important guideline for achieving fitness success is the concept that, “There is no failure; only feedback. You don’t “fail”, you only get results.”
For somebody that quits when something doesn’t work, or when feedback is less than positive, they feel as if it is a total or permanent failure. What they need is to see the big picture and that it isn’t a failure, it is just a way that doesn’t work as good.
The perspective needs to change to where they learn something from the experience. They learned that the way they did things for that particular week or whatever it may be, didn’t work. That’s it. It doesn’t mean they can’t do something. It just means it didn’t work. They need to change their perspective and understand it was just a temporary result.
One of the greatest challenges is when a habitually quitter gets into the mindset that nothing works, period and they base this on their halfhearted efforts in the past. What they need to do is step back, look at things as a whole and think, how did I do this week? Did I really deserve to lose any fat, or did I slack somewhat on my diet? Did I miss some workouts?
It is the people who failure as simply an obstacle, or an opportunity to learn, and to become a better, stronger person. If you can learn from your experiences, including your challenges, and work at not repeating those failures, then success is guaranteed.